Chapter 8 “The Transformed Church”

The Transformed Church Life Assignment

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Summary

The house of God is the place of revelation, instruction, and equipping, and it is the pillar of truth. What words come to mind when you think of the church? Are these thoughts built on His Word? Have you honored the local church like you should have? Why and Why not

Spiritual:

Are you planted or just spectating? This week , memorize or mediate on Luke 2:49: "Why were you searching for me?" he asked. "Didn't you know I had to be in my Father's house?"

Physical:

At this point, it is time to evaluate your diet. Most people do not find working out as difficult as controlling what they eat in between exercise. What is one food you should cut out completely from your diet?

Relational:

Take time to reach out to someone at your church whom you admire. It could be a mentor, a fellow member of a small group or pastor. Ask them to join you for a cup of coffee or a round of golf. Get to know them. Find out their passions and struggles, and learn about how the two of you can encourage each other. Find someone at your gym and share how God is causing you to grow. Invite him to be part of a men's group that is going through this book, or invite him to your church. I have found that the best to invite someone is casually, but confidently. How would you like someone to invite you if you did not go to church?

Financial:

Consider whether you have been giving consistently to your church. If not, remedy that. Have you started giving yet? If not, start with something-but don't stop there. Look at your budget and determine what it takes to put God first.

Chapter 9 “Transformed Addictions”

Transformed Addictions Life Assignment

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Summary

Not only do we have to name and bring to light unhealthy addictions, but victory comes when we replace them with healthy habits. What will happen to families if men don't get over addictions? Discuss

Spiritual:

Memorize/mediate on past Bible verses, and add Proverbs 25:28: Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control. What is an addiction that you need to break? What is a healthy or addiction that you can replace your current vice with?

Is there a counselor or close friend with whom you can share a struggle?

Physical:

What is another food that you need to get rid of? Maybe you simply need to eliminate soda, smoking, or binge eating. Many people find it successful to choose one meal they can intentionally cheat on-like a Friday night, for example. Then you have a goal of when you can cheat guilt-free. Set a specific goal this week.

Relational:

Rate each important relationship in your life on a scale of one to ten. How can you bump up the point one spot this day or this week?

My marriage is ___ out of ten?

Rate from 1 to 10

My relationship with my children?

Rate from 1 to 10

My Friendships?

Rate from 1 to 10

What is your action step?

Financial:

One of the best questions I have found that helps me in any area is, "What would a great leader do?" So in the area of finances, what would a financial expert say you need to do this week? Let's go!

Chapter 10 “The Transformed Provider”

The Transformed Provider Life

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Spiritual:

Proverbs 12:24 says, Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in forced labor. Do you have a tendency to overwork or to be lazy? Be honest with yourself. Which point hits you the hardest? How can you become wiser or more generous with your money? What is your action step for this week?

Physical:

Part of providing for your family is being there for them. This includes having the energy needed to be present in the lives and activities of our children and grandchildren. What is the biggest change you need to make in your health now? Eventually, this can easily become an area in which you have built great habits and just need to make small tweaks.

Relational:

How can you improve your conversation with your spouse regarding money? How is it now? Rate it on a scale of one to ten: What steps can you take to improve it?

If you're single answer with N/A as your answer for this question.

If you are single, were your parents a good example of how to handle finances? What would you copy? What would you change? If finances were not handled well, you may need to break the cycle of how money was managed in your home. What step can you begin this week

If you're married answer with N/A as your answer for this question.

Financial:

Go over the eight principles of finance. Rate yourself in each area on a scale of one to ten. Where do you need to improve the most.

Chapter 11 “The Transformed Husband”

The Transformed Husband

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Summary:

Being a transformed husband is about loving, listening, serving, and honoring. What would it look like if your father was a transformed husband? How would that have changed your life while you were growing up?

Spiritual:

Pray Psalm 128:1-4 regularly for your spouse and your family. Pray that God's hand would be over you as you lead them. Pray for wisdom and humility and for strong examples and mentors who can lead you in your path of manhood. Memorize and meditate on Proverbs 3:3-4: Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.

Physical:

It is one thing to get in shape, but it is another to stay in shape-especially as you get older. This week, keep developing the habits that help you maintain and improve your mental and physical health. Spend time outside with your wife and a hike, a picnic, or a long walk. What is your action step this week?

Relational:

If you are single, determining what type of marriage you want and the kind of husband you want to be will help you build those values into your life now. What pain have you witnessed because of unfaithfulness? How can you value love and faithfulness this week? Write down what you would love your wife to say about you on your fiftieth anniversary. Taking moments like this causes you to value faithfulness. If your married, commit to praying with your wife three times this week if you don't do so already. Pray even more together if you already do. Write down what you would love your wife to day about you on your fiftieth anniversary. Taking moments like this causes you to valve faithfulness. Take a moment to write below or in a journal what you want your kids and spouse to say about you years from now:

Suggested resources: His Needs, Her Needs by Williard F. Harley Jr., The Creative Marriage by Ed Young, and The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

Financial:

Bring your wife in on your finances, or if she is in charge, ask to be let in. Discuss hopes and dreams, things to be bought or sold, and how to get where you want to be together. Write down your action step for this week:

Chapter 12 “ The Transformed Father”

The Transformed Father

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Summary:

The three big lessons of being a transformed father are time, love, and discipline. Ask yourself these questions:

Love: How can I demonstrate love to my children in ways that they need it?

Time: Is there a way I can spend more intentional time with my children?

Discipline: How do I rate myself on discipline scale? How was I disciplined? Am I disciplining in a healthy way?

Spiritual:

Reflect on this question: Is the Father truly the strength of your life? What can you do this week to further your relationship with the Father?

Physical:

If your children were to copy the habits you have implemented in this area of life, what type of life would they live? What is one thing you can do this week to create a healthier lifestyle?

Relational:

What would you want your children to say about you years from now? Write down you action step for this week?

Financial:

How can you further challenge yourself in this area to reach your goals faster? Share it with someone to help you keep accountable.

Chapter 13 “The Transformed Body”

The Transformed Body Life

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Summary:

In a sit-down culture, it is very important to get intentional about your health! How would you rate your energy and focus level? What would a doctor or health expert tell you that you need to change? Discuss

Spritiual:

How are you self-control and spiritually connected? Why is it so important to take care of our bodies? Memorize/meditate on the Bible verses so far, and add Proverbs 19:3, We are ruined by our own stupidity, though we blame the Lord (CEV).

Physical:

Do you have a vision for what you want to look and feel like in five or ten years? The clearer you are on what type of person you want to be, the more likely you will eventually get there. Set a goal in a specific are of which you can be reminded daily. Health should be fun and challenging. Don't get stuck in a boring routines. Change it up regularly, and make prioritizing your health part of how you enjoy your life. My action step this week is:

Relational:

Find an accountability partner if this is an area of weakness for you and if you simply have some big goals. What is your action step for this week?

Financial:

Cut back on things that are unhealthy for you, and put that money in savings or toward a gym membership. How many times a week do you eat out? How can you minimize that to take better care of yourself and save money? What is your action step?

Chapter 14 “Transformed to Transformed”

Transformed to Transformed Life Assignment

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God doesn't just want to stop at you, but He wants an army of men who will rise and transform and being to help other men get unstuck!

1. How has Transform helped you?

2. What are you biggest wins in the Big Four areas of life?

3. How does a man getting unstuck affect generations?

Spirtiual:

What are some of the ways that God has transformed our life? Go over all the memory verses of this week. Take another look at your morning and your day. What have you most discovered about God during this time of transformation? What have you most discovered about yourself through this time?

Physical:

In what area have you made the most progress? What do you still need to accomplish?

Relational:

What have you been your greatest wins relationally through this time? Are you being mentored from books, podcasts, or some-one in your world? How would it help other men to be part of a group of men like this? What does the future look like for you as you live an intentional, relational life?

Financial:

What are your biggest wins from Transform? What does the future look like for you?

Reflection:

Now that you have discovered the Big Four areas of life, how can you help other men discover and get unstuck in them?

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